Ask Wally - Should we see each other before the ceremony?

As I meet with more couples to talk about their options for wedding photography, we go over the timing and plans for the day. They love the great romantics they see and the unique personal locations we have gone to (like our popular "Detroit Urban Shoots". But often there is just not enough time between the ceremony and reception and they would rather not keep their guests waiting while we have fun taking the photos. At least half of our couples have a great solution – they elect to see each other beforehand; usually this is based on timing of the day.  But no-one can talk you into it – the decision has to be yours alone – we can only point out advantages.

The idea of not seeing each other comes from medieval days – when marriages were arranged – if he saw you beforehand – he might change his mind.  A lot of contemporary couples are now saying – let’s make this work for us.

The whole secret – it that you HAVE to have a “special moment” when you first see each other – and we help to arrange this – it should be more private – maybe you are coming down a staircase, or out a door, and he is there waiting – be creative.  Then you can say things to each other without the whole world watching and we just capture the emotion from a distance.

Then you can have your wedding party join you and we can go where ever you want – within reason of the timing, and just have FUN!  This is your snuggle time and special time with each other and the people closest to you.  Believe me, after the ceremony it gets much more hectic. ENJOY this time!

The 2 of you are your own best friends, you tend to calm each other down, and this is usually such a relief and stress reducer.  This is the most important day of your lives – why spend it hiding from each other?! Besides, you get to wear your gorgeous dress longer! And, you get a lot more incredible images that are natural and fun and really show your style and the creative style you chose your photographer for!

NO-ONE has EVER said “I wish we didn’t do that” – everyone has loved it and raved about it.

When you walk done the aisle it is another special moment! Sometimes we still do a limited amount of immediate family “Alter groups” just after the ceremony – but then you can mingle with your guests and ENJOY your own party!

I went looking through the files and found so many great images of this over the years - here are a few of our favorites.

Beth and Brian meet at the Henry Ford Estate
Carmie and Steve meet at the Detroti Athletic Club
Suzanne and Flint meet at the Detroit Zoo
Charlie and Josh meet at the Henry Ford Estate in 2005
3 more couples meet beforehand

These images show what words cannot express!

It is a real option that many modern couples have embraced to make the timing of the day work for them and enjoy EACH OTHER more.  If you have any questions please feel free to call and we can talk about your options within the timing of your day!